Plate 9 of 10
Saying what feels good
Guiding your partner with words or your hand, without sounding critical
You cannot pass on information you do not have. To tell someone what feels good, you first have to have noticed it yourself: which pressure, which rhythm, at which moment. That is why exploring alone prepares you so well for life as a couple, but only if you carry it out as a search: try, compare, and keep what works.
The stakes are real. When dozens of studies are brought together, couples who talk about sex report more desire, more arousal and more orgasms, with a particularly clear effect in women for desire and orgasm. Talking often matters less than talking well. You have to say clearly what you like and what you do not like, and feel genuinely heard in return.
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